By our best guess (as of this writing), we have shared roughly 27,000 ‘happies’ and 9,000 appreciations with each other. A routine that started while dating 1,011 miles apart has helped to keep our marriage healthy through all that life has thrown at us. 

 

Through successes and failures, bliss and our ‘do-I-really-have-to-share-a-bed-with-you’ moments, this nightly routine has kept us connected and committed to one another. We hope it will do the same for you. 

 

Kate is the smart one. She graduated from Dartmouth with a degree in Psychology having captained the soccer team for several years and then Hah-vard with a Masters in Education. Cole studied Religion at UVa, was made fun of by the real athletes because he played golf there, got a Masters in Sports Psych and then a MBA from the home of the ‘Dawgs. 

 

A long-distance relationship started because of a crazy pre-internet connection. (Love you, Bri.) Eleven months and 18 days after our first in-person meeting, we said ‘I do.’

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We've raised three young men, worked with thousands of young people at our summer camp, and spent a whole lot of time researching and talking and writing about bringing out the best in people. 

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Who knew that one little routine that we practiced together would have such out-sized benefits for our family. We are certain if you practice it with the same intent, patience and consistency, it'll help you, too.